Average Age at First Marriage is Rising

The average age at first marriage has risen significantly over the last 50 years. People today are waiting 6-7 years longer to get married than previous generations. Between 1950-1960 the average age of men at first marriage was around 23 and the average age for women was around 20. Today the average age for men at first marriage is around 29 and the average age for women at first marriage is around 27.

Divorce rates have been fairly steady but the number of both men and women who have never been married has steadily increased.


Low Number of Christian Singles are Dating

Short and interesting read about how very few Christian singles are dating:

And a good follow up article on some possible reasons why:

Number of People Never Married on the Rise

Some interesting stats from Pew Research Center. I’ve just included some highlights which I’m directly quoting from their website and have included the links so you can look at the stats more in depth if you want.

Number of People Never Married on the Rise

“Since the first Religious Landscape Study was conducted in 2007, the share of Americans who are married has continued to decline, while the share of adults who have never been married has risen sharply. In fact, recent analysis of census data shows that the share of Americans who have never been married now stands at an all-time high.”

Interfaith Relationships

Chapter 2: Religious Switching and Intermarriage

“Interfaith relationships are common among married people and those living with a romantic partner, and interfaith marriage appears to be on the rise.”

“Interfaith relationships are far more common among unmarried people who are living with a partner (49% of whom have a partner with a religion different from their own) than among married people (31% of whom are in a religiously mixed marriage). Even among married people, however, mixed-faith relationships appear to be growing more common. Nearly four-in-ten married people who were wed since 2010 have a spouse who identifies with a different religious group.

These patterns strongly suggest that intermarriage has been rising, but it also should be noted that some research indicates that “in-marriages” (marriages between people of the same religion) tend to be more durable than intermarriages.”

More Women Identify with Christianity than Men

“Women are far more likely than men to identify with Christian groups (75% vs. 66%). Men, by contrast, are more likely than women to describe themselves as religious “nones” (27% vs. 19%).

But both men and women have become less Christian and more unaffiliated since 2007, by roughly equal amounts. The share of men who identify with Christianity has shrunk by eight percentage points since 2007, and the share of self-identified Christians among women has declined by seven points. Meanwhile, the share of “nones” is up seven points among men and six points among women.”

Gospel – Returning to the Truth

Time to get back to what the Bible says about the gospel:

In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness.” So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female he created them. Thus says the LORD, “I am the first and I am the last; besides me there is no God. I the LORD speak the truth; I declare what is right.” This God—His way is perfect, the word of the LORD proves true; He is a shield for all those who take refuge in Him.

Long ago, at many times and in many ways, God spoke to our Fathers by the prophets, but in these last days He has spoken to us by His Son, Jesus Christ, whom He appointed the heir of all things, through whom He also created the world. For God says of the Son, “Your throne O God is forever and ever. You, LORD, laid the foundation of the earth in the beginning, and the heavens are the work of your hands.” In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen His glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.

And no creature is hidden from His sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account. And just as it is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment. For whoever keeps the whole law but fails in one point has become accountable for all of it. And God spoke all these words saying, “You shall have no other god’s before me. You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not hold him guiltless who takes his name in vain. You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ But I, (Jesus), say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. You shall not steal. You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or anything that is your neighbors.

For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. On account of these the wrath of God is coming: evil desire, covetousness (which is idolatry), anger, wrath, malice, slander, obscene talk, and lying. Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things. We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God? God is a righteous judge, and a God who feels indignation every day. If a man does not repent, God will whet his sword. Do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear Him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.

But God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. He was pierced for our transgressions; He was crushed for our iniquities; upon Him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with His wounds we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned—every one—to his own way; and the LORD has laid on Him the iniquity of us all. For our sake He made Him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God. Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us—for it is written, “Cursed is everyone who is hanged on a tree.” And without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sins. Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, He was buried, and He was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures.

For it is by grace that you are saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones. Seek the LORD while He may be found; call upon Him while He is near; let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the LORD, that He may have compassion on him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD, “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by His grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God put forward as a propitiation by His blood, to be received by faith. This was to show God’s righteousness, because in His divine forbearance he had passed over former sins. It was to show His righteousness at the present time, so that He might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus. The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth. Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.

The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.


Psalm 119:73
Your hands have made and fashioned me;
Give me understanding that I may learn your commandments.

When God gives His commands to us through His word there is always a purpose. We have a tendency to think of God as someone who tells us what to do or not to do with a ‘because I said so’ attitude. Like we’re supposed to blindly follow with no reason given. However, this is an incorrect way of thinking and an incorrect view of God.

God is the Creator and therefore He knows exactly how His creation was made to function best. So, when we read the Bible and see that God tells us to pursue certain things and avoid other things; He is saying those things because not only is it right, but as Creator He knows what is best. We get in trouble when we start to think our way is better than God’s way, this is sin.

Psalm 119:80
May my heart be blameless in your statutes, that I may not be put to shame!

Fear of the Lord

If you were to ask someone what comes to mind when you hear the word “fear,” most would use examples of having a fear of snakes, heights, or death and so on. The principle being conveyed is one of wanting to stay away from those types of fears. We are scared of those things and thus we want nothing to do with them. However, when the Bible talks of the “fear of the Lord,” a totally different principle or concept is being conveyed. The Bible is God’s Word and in Proverbs 1:7 it says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge.” The Bible is God’s way of revealing Himself to us and also revealing how we can live in a way that is pleasing to Him. It would make no sense if this fear being referred to meant to be “scared of”, thus making us want to stay away from Him, especially when the Bible’s purpose is the exact opposite. Rather, when we take the whole of scripture we see that the fear being referred to is more along the lines of reverential awe. Or to simply be more concerned about what God thinks of your life than anyone else. Thus to fear God in this sense is simply to submit to God, knowing that God’s ways are always better.

To see how scripture clarifies this concept, consider the following verses; In Psalm 112:1 it says, “Praise the Lord! How blessed is the man who fears the Lord, Who greatly delights in His commandments.” Proverbs 19:23 says, “The fear of the Lord leads to life, So that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil.”


Do I Really Need To?
Forgiveness is not simply a one-time event. I was in a situation where I was hurt and at one point I did forgive them. However, reminders of what had happened kept coming up and because I did not choose to forgive each time I was reminded of the person/event bitterness started creeping in. Without even realizing it I had started to harbor resentment and it inevitably affected every area of my life. Some situations/people bring deep hurt in your life, but my challenge to you is to ask God if this is an area you need help in.

Forgiveness and repentance are both things that should be practiced daily, yet I must admit that there have been many days in my life when I have practiced neither. Forgiveness and repentance are both gifts granted by God. Seek Christ for the strength to do both.

A Little Clarification
To add as a note of clarification; to forgive someone does not mean you have to trust him or her again. It would be absolute foolishness to trust some people again after knowing there past actions towards you. Yet it is necessary to forgive and many times this is something that is just between you and God.

God’s Word
Colossians 3:12-13
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive.

Mark 11:25
And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

Ephesians 4:31-32
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Matthew 18:21-22
Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times? Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.

Hebrews 12:14
Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord.

Reason for Pause

We found some sad and concerning statistics during research, which caused us to take some time to pause and reflect.

Those postponing marriage for the first time are at record highs; the highest rates since before the 1900’s. (1)
-Percent of men never married is almost 35% and women is almost 30%
-These rates are like those during times of war or natural disaster.

56% of those 18-34 years old that have never married desire to be. (2)
-26% Say the reason they are not married is because they have not found the right person.

50% of church going men have a pornography problem. (3)
-64% of U.S. men view pornography at least monthly. The number of Christian men viewing pornography is essentially equal to the national average broken down by age:
-79% men between the ages of 18 and 30 view pornography monthly.
-67% of men between the ages of 31 and 49 view pornography monthly.

80% of young evangelical Christian singles are sexually active. (4)
-30% of young single evangelical women get pregnant.
-40% of pregnancies end in abortion.
-37% of these women having abortions identify as Protestant.

STD’s are at epidemic rates in the US. (5)
-With 110 million infected out of 323 million population.
-50% of the new infections are in people ages 15-24.
-HPV accounts for over half of all STD’s.
-It can be spread not only through sex but by kissing.
-It causes cancer of the cervix, genitals, throat, neck and head.

Is the Church prepared or addressing these issues? (6)
-One study found 22% of 18-29 yr. old’s believe the church ignores real-world problems.
-33% feel they can not ask questions about these real problems.
-Young people want to be challenged and to talk about tough questions.


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